4 THINGS A BLOGGER HAS TO ACCEPT

12 March 2016

A common misconception that follows me around like a shadow whenever anyone is introduced to the fact that i blog is that it must just be a bit of fun. yes, it is. i say, if i didn't enjoy it i wouldn't be doing it. but it's not a 'bit' of anything, it takes up a significant amount of time and energy and brain power and creativity.
and it's not always complete fun and games. sometimes my loyal minions abandon me, or the skeletons in the cupboard make an appearance; sometimes just for a cup of tea, other times for an extended holiday.
1. ACCEPTING || YOUR PAST (BLOGGING) SELF
That moment when your friend stalks your old blog posts too fast for you to revert them to drafts. When you read an old review and cringe. Looking at how you used to structure your posts with different sized fonts in the same sentence because you didn't even know how to make them all the same.                                                                                                    2. ACCEPTING || THE LACK OF INTEREST ON A POST YOU LOVE
Working extremely hard on a blog post. Writing and re-writing. Editing photos. Adding a watermark to every single one. Re-drafting and re-drafting. Going completely insane over broken links and html that just IS NOT working and photos that won't align or sit comfortably where you want them to (shall I stop ranting about this post now? ok..) But honestly, this is for every single blog post you ever write. You won't ever post anything you're not proud of, you will put your time and effort into every single thing you create and write and photograph. And then to see no-one really taking the time to read it or comment on it is extremely disheartening. But you need to get used to it. Because people don't have all the time in the world. Just like you skip commenting on someone's post because you genuinely have no time, other people do the same. Grow a thick skin. And scales, because that's cooler. Then you can be part human part dragon.
3. ACCEPTING || THE FACT THAT BLOGGING TAKES TIME
To all the people that think blogging doesn't take much time at all. Leave. And close the door behind you, please.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  4 . ACCEPTING || THE DESIRE TO SUCCEED
And by success I'm not referring to any certain definition. I'm sure everyone has goals they want to accomplish in relation to blogging. Whether that is to post more often, reach a certain number of page views or followers or become king/queen of blogland (or just the world, why not dream big?) I think I ignored my goals at first, because I didn't know what I was doing and I didn't think I'd get anywhere with it. If I wanted to reach say, ten followers in a month and I didn't. I'd brush it aside and pretend to myself that I hadn't really wanted to achieve that anyway. So I think part of accepting your desire to succeed is also accepting when you fail, and doing something about it. And now this is getting too deep. I think I'm drowning.
WHAT ELSE DO YOU THINK SHOULD BE ADDED TO THIS LIST?

27 comments:

  1. Yes, this is so true!!! So many people think blogging is really easy and doesn't take up a lot of time, but it does. It's the brainstorming ideas for posts, it's the taking pictures, the editing, writing the post, formatting it and then trying to comment on other people's blogs too. I love it, but it can be quite frustrating when people assume that blogging is something that takes up a small amount of time. And YES, it can be quite disheartening when you take so much time to write a review you're really proud of or a post you're super excited about but then not many people comment. But like you said, a lot of people just don't have time and it's something we need to accept. I know that I don't comment on every single post in my feed even though I try to comment on most of them but yep, it's hard trying to find time for all blogging related things haha! XD Great post!

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    1. I'm so glad you agree! BLOGGING TAKES UP SO MUCH TIME. And the issue with living in England is that you usually only have a very small pocket of time to take photos because of the constant rain and clouds and bad lighting, and usually that's when you're out at school/university. So you have to do it all on the weekend - and then you're basically just 'wasting' time that you could be using to study. UGH.
      I know I'm definitely horrible at commenting, especially in spring as that that's revision/exam time and I always feel really bad, especially when people comment on my posts and I think, well the managed to find the time..so why can't i?!

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  2. All these are so so true! I think the biggest one I've always had an issue with is number 2, because I can spend hours working on a post, and then you see the pageview count go up and I'm like WHY. WONT. YOU. COMMENT?! But sometimes people just don't have the time.
    Another thing that could be added is this: haters are going to hate. No matter how much hope you have for it in the early years, not everybody is going to like you and your blog - and that's okay :)

    Hollyislostinalibrary.blospot.co.uk

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    1. Number 2 is probably the worst for me too, each blog post takes HOURS, and sometimes my pageview count doesn't even go up - so it's a bad day all around! ahah. And sometimes it's not even that they don't like the post, it's that they genuinely don't even have time to read it.

      Awh yes, sad but true. And also blogging friends come and go - not everyone stays in the long run, some people have to shift their priorities or don't have the time; and some will drift away: but that's true in life I guess, not just blogging!

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  3. Hahaha this is so true! I especially relate to #1. I think the best way to deal with it is to just face it head-on, leaving your old posts up for the world to see and even reading them yourself occasionally (when you're feeling especially masochistic or nostalgic). I never link to my old three-(very short) paragraph reviews, but I trust that anyone who reads them will realize they come from a time before I had built up my reviewing skills to the presentable level they're at now.

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    1. OH GOSH NO. You're brave. I've reverted SO MANY OF MY OLD POSTS TO DRAFT, and I have no regrets. They're so bad I can't even bear reading them so I don't want other people to read them either!

      Three paragraphs? I used to do one, with about three different fonts all merged together into them. And all i said was i liked the book and provided a lengthy summary of the book basically copied from the internet....Sigh.

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  4. I agree with all four of these points so much. Number 2 definitely resonates with me, considering there have been several times I've worked tirelessly on a post just to find that it hadn't received as much love as I wanted it to have.
    ALSO. On having the time to blog...blogging takes so much out of you!

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    1. BLOGGING IS RIDICULOUSLY TIRING. and it hurts your eyes - especially when you're staring at code that just WON'T work, or editing aNOTHER of a pile of 100 photos..it's why I very rarely do travel posts, as much as I love them, i space them out quite a lot because the editing and formatting of the photos fries my brain..

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  5. Ooh, I muchly like this list! *applauds* And I particularly agree with #2. It is hard when you think a post is going to be really really good but doesn't get a lot of love. *weeps* (Honestly, I can NEVER tell when a post is going to go down well or not. GAHHH. The ones I think won't always do, and vice versa. xD) Ohhh, and I do think #3 is very important.

    I also think we need to accept that there's really not ONE way to blog. There are millions of ways and it's okay to be a little weird or odd about how you format posts or when you post or how you go about writing it. *nods* I think people often think to be a certain-type-of-blogger you have to complete a checklist? NOPE. It's about creativity. ;D And also: it doesn't always have to be "fun". Art isn't always fun. But if it's your passion than that's the reason you stick with it. At least I think. XD XD

    EXCELLENT POST, HAWWA!

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    1. Why thank you Cait, *bows* *accepts applause*

      BUT DO NOT TALK TO ME ABOUT POSTS THAT DON'T GET A LOT OF LOVE. all your posts are ridiculously amazing and well received and have about a bajillion and one comments on them. Humph.

      Yessss, nice point Cait. I see it with a lot of 'younger' bloggers in terms of less-experienced bloggers who have just started. Their posts are a lot more creative and personal and unique compared to some more 'experienced bloggers' who try to 'fit in'. I see it go either way though, some bloggers develop their own unique style as they go along, and others just try and 'conform' to a certain blog stereotype, BUT WE SHOULD ALL BE UNIQUE AND AWESOME IN OUR OWN WAY.

      THANK YOU, CAIT!

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  6. OH YES THIS IS THE TRUEST. #1 is something I've had to face sooooo many times with my writing. #2 is so nerve wracking because every time I think I've got a handle on what will be popular, a post totally flops. And #4 -- just, yes. It's kinda ridiculous to think that we have no goals in our blogs because of course we do. *nodnod*

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    1. EVERYONE HAS GOALS. whether they're small or extremely challenging to achieve. And as for #1: UGH. just, Ugh.

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  7. hawwa i can't tell you how much i love this post. these are all things i've been seriously struggling to accept over the past few months and recently i feel like i've finally reached a place of acceptance and it's made me so much more enthusiastic about blogging. bookmarking this post so i can come back to it in the future when i'm feeling blah about blogging again <3

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    1. Well I think you just have Annie..you commented on the post - and I APPRECIATE YOU. *nods* ;) That's sad to here but YAY, I LOVE THAT FEELING. That happened to me over the spring of last year and in the summer of 2015 i decided to expand the focus of my blog and changed it's name and domain and since then I have been so much more enthusiastic about blogging and have had so many new ideas - the only issue now is finding the time to implement them!

      AWWWH THAT IS SO SWEET, I AM SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THIS POST THAT MUCH!

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  8. 10 POINTS TO THIS POST COS OF BLAIR WALDORF'S GIF!!!!!!!!
    I couldn't agree more with all these points, Hawwa! Blogging is a constant work in progress. You have to do social media, networking, photography and everything that equals to some house chores (and they don't even require staring at white screen, wheeez). It's not an easy thing, of course. But it's worth it. To growth, to be more creative, to be better at socializing, it's always so helpful! x

    Noor | Noor's Place

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    1. BUT I'M IN RAVENCLAW NOOR. THAT'S NOT FAIR.
      I'm so glad you agree though! Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one - or maybe that's just people pretending they're cool and hipster and have no worries all the time..;)
      IT IS WORTH IT, but sometimes my eyes hate me for staring at a screen too long..

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  9. Omfg this is the most relatable thing I've ever read. ALL THESE POINTS TEAR ME APART.

    I'm actually going to go back over all my old posts one day and take them off my blog because it's just too cringe-worthy to handle. Like if one of my family members read an old review of mine I think I'd just die. Or at least I'd want to >_<

    And YES. Blogging takes too much time with too little reward. It's unfair because I think bloggers work just as hard as any working journalist does. But maybe one day we'll be famous enough to get an automatic book deal... ._.

    AMAZING POST

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    1. THANKS BUT OMG *gets out the cellotape*

      I've done that already - for precisely that reason. I've not deleted them because..you know..it's always good to have embarrassing memories on hand to make you cringe when you're on an old and grumpy middle-aged person.

      That's very true - I think it's also unfair how some sections of blogging get much more 'reward' than others..but yeah..automatic book deal, I could do with that..

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    2. Yeah, I wouldn't delete them either. It also kind of makes me proud to know that I had the initiative to do something productive at that age. ;P

      YES LIKE I SAW THIS ONE 'FASHION' BLOGGER WHO GOT A VISA TO LIVE IN NEW YORK AND WORK FULL TIME AS A BLOGGHHGER. AND SHE'S ONLY BEEN BLOGGING FOR FOUR YEARS wuttttt. Book bloggers have it so much harder.

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    3. Uh, proud yes. but also i cringe so much because WHAT WAS I THINKING. WHY WAS I SO INCOMPETENT.

      what. what. WHAT.

      that is very very very true and i think it is SO unfair. :(

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  10. I LOVE THIS POST! Tbh the fact you have 427 followers initially made me sniff at the very idea you have anything to "accept", but then I'm like wait, number of followers doesn't mean blogger is 100% all the time, Emily you daft turtle. Like, I would once have thought 108 followers (which I have) an INSANELY HIGH NUMBER, and yet I'm still nodding along to this whole list.

    For me I think it's accepting that sometimes people won't respond to friendship. There are a couple of people whom I feel I've tried really hard with and who I don't perceive put as much/any time into being "nice" to me back, if that makes sense? Like if you leave four nice comments in a row and then you're like wait no she never replies and it's just not very nice sometimes. I think it can be a case of accepting that some people aren't going to be as polite online as irl and you can't be BFFs with everyone you meet.

    Excellent gif usage!

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    1. MMM..to be honest: that 427 followers doesn't mean a thing. you could have ten thousand followers but if none of them actually read your blog what does it even mean? i would MUCH prefer having 0 'followers' and 427 comments per post, as that would mean they're actually engaging and appreciating my content..i swear half my followers no longer even exist now..:O

      MHM, i think a main thing to do with that is people have very different ideas about what they want to do with blogging - everyone wants to succeed - but some people i think take it too far with it and isolate anyone that doesn't help them get 'bigger' and 'better' or are too successful in their own right for them to like anymore. I've definitely come across people who are very clearly not interested in being friends with me because i'm too 'small' or not 'useful enough' and people that have stopped being my friends for those reasons to.. :/

      hey emily, IS THIS AN INDIRECT ABOUT ME. i feel like it is. i'm that person that barely ever replies immediately or forgets to or doesn't have the time..WHAT GUTS YOU HAVE. ;p ;)

      THANK YOU FOR APPRECIATING MY TASTE IN GIFS.

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    2. That's so true! You're a veteran blogger (you were one of my first bloggy pals!) and, four years since I started out (my blogoversary is next week actually!) I'm sure half my followers have vanished!

      I totally get that, and I'm like fam please I just want to be your friend. It is a shame that people are like that </2

      NO IT ISN'T I SWEAR. Though as I typed it I was like wait will she think-- but then I thought no, and that is a mark of friendship that I was happy to say it anyway XD

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  11. Hahaha oh dear, accepting your past blogging self. That's a tricky one. But this is a great list!! Good job. And gifs are great.

    I really need to work on my scales though.

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    1. Hahah thank you! it is so difficult isn't it. :(

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  12. This is so true! It's funny (heartbreaking) that most of the time the posts I absolutely love are the ones that don't get as much (any) love and attention. It's something that I've come to accept but it's still really sad to see.

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    1. VV HEARTBREAKING. i feel your pain. but at the same time i could be one of the people that causes this heartbreak seeing as i am so bad at replying to your lovely comments..:O *hides under bed*

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